Last week family members gathered in Goshen to remember Aunt Marjorie, Mother's sister. Of the nine siblings, only Uncle Milo and Mother now remain, both residing in Greencroft's Assisted Living.
Aunt Marjorie passed away suddenly and unexpectedly in the best way possible--without pain, yet surrounded by family and friends during the dinner celebrating her great grandson's wedding! We all consider this to have been a wonderful gift to her, since it was soon going to be necessary for her to give up independent living. [I took these photos with my little G9 point-n-shoot, no flash, mostly so that brother Mark, cousin Sandra and others can get a sense of what the family experienced and enjoyed. You can click on photos to enlarge them slightly.]
On Thursday morning, I visited Mother before the two of us had lunch with one of her table mates. She had a computer question, and (wonder of wonders) I was able to solve it. We all are so proud--as was Dad--that she has learned how to use a computer so late in life. I was especially thankful that Bill had set up a printer for her because this allowed me to print my boarding pass Saturday morning before my return flight.
The viewing at Yoder-Culp was in the afternoon and early evening. Lots of relatives, even some of Marjorie's daughters' co-workers, etc. It was a peaceful wake, alternating between tears and laughter, and sense of loss and the joy of being together again with loved ones.
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Uncle Milo, Mother's sole surviving sibling, and his friend Ruth. |
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Mother, her nephew Roland and Violet from Illinois |
That evening we Kreiders ate together (Paul, Kay, Bruce, Charlotte, Kristin and Grandma) in a Mexican restaurant, a mini reunion. About an hour later, Frank pulled in after having left work early and driving several hours. so some of us joined him for the evening visitation. After more visiting in Mother's apartment, we let her turn in while we took Frank to Constant Spring to get a late supper. I always enjoy looking at the old pressed tin ceiling.
We gathered Friday morning at about 9:30 (Marjorie's family had time alone before that) for prayers and the reading of scriptures before driving in procession for the burial.
It was good to see all approaching cars on the highway pull over and stop, showing silent respect to the deceased. This custom reminded me of that in Europe, when people used to stop what they were doing and men would remove their hats while the mourners slowly walked to the cemetery. The internment was in Violett Cemetery, near where we grew up on the outskirts of Goshen.
We then went to the North Goshen Mennonite Church for the Memorial Service at 11:00 a.m. The family gathered in the Fellowship Hall before processing into the sanctuary.
I felt it was inappropriate to take photos during the service, and was certainly not positioned for shooting, but I really wanted just one photo showing Shelby's granddaughter, Hilary, reading a tribute, and now wish I had photos of Kimberly singing "Amazing Grace", Cal leading the singing, etc.
After the service, the pastor invited family and all the guests to a lunch which was generously prepared by the congregation's volunteers (plus a jello dessert).
A number of people paid tributes to Marjorie, but at my age, I remember few names. I believe this next photo shows Shelby introducing her grandson and new wife of one week. I was so glad they could be present.
Cal served as song leader in the Memorial Service and as Master of Ceremonies at the dinner's reception. His wife, Ardys, spoke (as did many other people, but I did not think to take photos until the stories were already well underway, so I missed recording quite a few important contributions).
Mother (Marjorie's youngest sister) recalled stories from their days on the farm, high school and beyond.
Bruce told of the kindness he received from Aunt Marjorie and cousins when they looked after him while Paul was deathly ill. Ever since those days, Bruce has felt a very special connection with Milton and Marjorie's family.
Paul told of a recent phone call he enjoyed with Aunt Marjorie, who wished to thank him for another of his excellent loaves of bread.
Cousin David always speaks well, reminding me of his father.
Mary Alice also shared stories, reminding us that her mother (Fern) and Marjorie had been very close sisters in childhood and adulthood.
Sandra and Gilbert were visiting their daughter's family in England, so they were understandably absent. Linda represented her side of the family. She reminds me so much of Aunt Lois.
Ethel, one of Uncle Milton's sisters, was introduced by Cal to the guests.
That evening, we were all pretty well exhausted. On a whim, we Kreiders decided, for old times sake, to have dinner at the Southside Soda Shop on Main Street, a favourite haunt over the decades. I noticed the banner declaring Goshen High School as "Sectional Champs" (presumably in basketball) in 1942, the year I was born.
Paul and Kay were delighted to meet some friends they had known years ago, so they enjoyed seeing each others' sets of phone/camera photos.
After dinner, another visit--and again on Saturday morning.
Early Saturday morning (8:00 a.m. but 5:00 a.m. Vancouver time) Dan took me to the local Farmers' Market where his brother's family sells their excellent produce. Dan and Anne will soon be heading off to India.
Everybody left Goshen at different times. Frank had to return to work right after the internment, Paul and Kay left before lunch on Saturday, and Bruce, Charlotte and Kristin left immediately after lunch with Mother at Greencroft. Their drive takes two full days. I returned to O'Hare Saturday afternoon, running into unbelievably heavy traffic, thanks to a Cubs game (and possibly Bears?) I have been walking through this underground passageway at O'Hare for 35 years, enjoying how the lights continually change as one goes from terminal B to terminal C. This time I decided to stop and take a photo, using a pillar for a tripod so I could shoot a time exposure @ 1 second.
My final photo on this trip was taken through the window pane as Alaska Airlines began the 4.5 hr flight west to Seattle. The sunset reminded me of the Lutheran prayer about life's final evening--and Aunt Marjorie's final evening.